If I get into a fight and have to hurt someone, I want the
reason to be a better one than protecting a space by the bar,
or a piece of tarmac on a country road. I want to be lying in
my bed thinking to myself, 'I had no other option open to me
but to fight'. There is a heavy toll to pay for participating in
a fight and, if you are morally in the wrong, the bill that
drops through the door can be very exacting. Once again, we
return to the fact that your system should be real, if it is, and
you pressure test what you have, then the confidence it
brings will be enough to enable you to walk away -it will
make you strong enough to over ride peer pressure and ego.
A pivotal part of understanding the enemy is realising that
he probably doesn't understand himself very well. When he
gives you the finger in the car, or stares at you aggressively
across a busy bar it's not personal, unless of course you
make it so. You are a manifestation of whatever it is in his
life that makes him angry: his dominant wife; his bullying
boss; his car that keeps breaking down or his adolescent
children.