remember

Understanding the enemy means comprehending that, 'it's
not personal' and that, if a situation becomes physical there
are no winners. Once you understand the psyche of the
person or people that you are dealing with, you will probably
understand them better than they understand themselves. In
an instant you will be able to see and understand the run of
their whole life and that it, like so many, is on a downward
spiral to oblivion. Don't you find that very sad? Doesn't it
make you feel a little compassion for these people? Not only
do they not understand where they are going wrong, they
will probably never understand and their whole life will
unravel in the same unfortunate way. Don't take it
personally, let it go, let them off! Their lives are already shit
without you making it worse.